If a man really wants you...

I saw this article/blog written by someone else and I have to say I agree with every word. And there are a couple of things I am guilty of so it is nice to be reminded of that. Pass this advice along...

If a Man Wants You

By: Salma Rumman


This advice was passed along to me from a counselor; it was great to hear so I wanted to share it.

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that’s not meant to be.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t "be friends." A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.

Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don’t stay because you think "it will get better." You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.

Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else’s man. Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you allow him to treat you.

All men are not dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...There is nothing cute about baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to complete you. A relationship consists of two whole individuals. Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.

Dating is fun; even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always knows where you are, and you’re always readily available to him — he takes it for granted.

Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other ladies. You’ll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, and an entire lifetime to forget them.

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Meh...

Well...tomorrow morning I will be running half marathon #9. And for some unknown reason I have no emotions about it either way. Usually I feel nervous or excited or both before a race. This time I'm just "meh". I'm not sure how to feel about that. Maybe part of it is I wish my parents could see me race. I't mean the world to me to have my dad and mom see me cross the finish line. I've had friends come out & cheer me on out on the course, but I've never really had anyone at the finish line cheering me on as I cross it. Maybe I'm being a silly girl, but it'd mean a lot to me to have that. Andit'd mean even more if it were my family. But I know my dad's health issues will not allow it. He isn't able to stand around for over 2 and a half hours waiting for me to finish. I can only hope one day he can. Maybe once his foot completely heals & he gets a new hip he can do things. I wish for that more than anything.

My heart/mind is heavy.

I am the type of person that will hold her emotions in and put on a brave face for the world...until I reach a certain point.  I get it from my dad.  Well, I've reached that point.  I have to vent, and what better way than to just blog it.  It is my blog and I can vent if I want to.

I miss my nephew Josh.  I worry about him over in Afghanistan every day and hope he is safe.  He has always held a special place in my heart...since the day he was born and that will never change...no matter what.  We've grown apart over the last year but what hasn't changed is I love him and he is my family.  I will always be there for him.  I hope he knows how true those words are. 

I wish my dad could go one day without pain...just one day.  He is such a fighter and it kills me to see him suffer.  He is such a good man and he doesn't deserve to have to live this way.  It isn't fair.  But then again, neither is life.  You have to play with the hand you are dealt.  So, again, I will be there for him, and my mom, for whatever they need whenever they need it.  I was blessed to have such awesome parents, who loved me unconditionally, and I never questioned that.  I always knew they had my back.  I only wish I could do more for them.

When it comes to dating & flirting I totally fail.  In fact, I think I always have.  I just want to meet someone and not play any games & all that crap.  I'm a cool chick...give me a dive bar and a good cold beer & I'm happy.  But my biggest problem is I am shy and I won't walk up to someone and initiate.  This can be perceived as being a snob or standoffish.  Which I'm totally not.  I am trying to work on this.  I miss going on dates...the butterflies...the newness of a new romance.  It'll happen for me...and when it does I hope that man can keep up with me because I can be handful.  And please let him want to always have fun.  No bores allowed.

On a lighter note, we're going camping this weekend! WooHoo!  I need a weekend away and what better time can be had that with your closest friends and then some?  I think there are about 40-ish of us total.  I plan to sit in my camping chair, drink cold beer, eat some damn good food and be with friends.  There is no better way to spend a weekend in my opinion.  Unless it is on a beach with an adult beverage in a coconut.

Racing goals...

Since my budget has been tight lately I've missed out on registering for some races I really wanted to do this season.  One being the Tour des Fluers 20k that is this Saturday.  Another being the White Rock Half Marathon.  I refuse to pay $100 for a race.  I just can't justify it.  And I waited too long to hop on a relay team.  Oh well.  I went through the local race calendar and have my eye on some races to do that I think I can work into my budget. So here is my race plan for this season:

10/13/11 Sante Fe Trail 5k
11/06/11 DRC Half Marathon (pacing the 2:40 R/W finish)
11/20/11 Fired Up 5k
11/24/11 Turkey Tro 8 Mile (I NEVER miss this one)
12/04/11 White Rock Marathon Relay (if I can get a team together)
01/22/12 Too Cold to Hold 15k
02/11/12 Hot Chocolate 15k (can't wait to do this one!)
The next 2 are maybes:
02/19/11 Austin Half Marathon
04/15/11 Hog Eye Half Marathon

If you have any other suggestions on good races preferably with nice swag let me know!

This is my bitch session...you were warned...

There are so many thoughts running through my mind lately...I keep saying I need to blog about it, but I don't. Then they keep running around in there and clogging it up.  Class started last week and I'm already a week behind...awesome! Go me!  I'm tired of being broke.  I need a financial windfall...SOON! There are so many things I want to do and races I want to run, but you can't if the $$$ is tight.  I'm tired of sandwiches and popcorn for dinner.  I wish CatDog would get a damn job to help out...oh well. I have food on the table and gas in the car.  My bills are paid so I know it could be worse.  But damn...I miss having fun.  I also miss my nephew.  I want my dad to get better and not have anymore set backs.  It kills me to see him hurting and in pain.  I wish the pointless drama would go away.  I wish people would mind their own business and worry about themselves.  I wish I could do something special for my friends to show them how much they mean to me.  I want to go visit Zak.  I miss his hugs. 

Ok I'm done...tomorrow will hopefully be a better day.

One Day You Will - Lady Antebellum

You feel like you're falling backwards
Like you're slippin' through the cracks
Like no one would even notice
If you left this town and never came back
You walk outside and all you see is rain
You look inside and all you feel is pain
And you can't see it now


[Chorus]


But down the road the sun is shining
In every cloud there's a silver lining
Just keep holding on (just keep holding on)
And every heartache makes you stronger
But it won't be much longer
You'll find love, you'll find peace
And the you you're meant to be
I know right now that's not the way you feel
But one day you will


You wake up every morning and ask yourself
What am I doing here anyway
With the weight of all those disappointments
Whispering in your ear
You're just barely hanging by a thread
You wanna scream but you're down to your last breath
And you don't know it yet


[Repeat Chorus]


Find the strength to rise above
You will
Find just what you're made of, you're made of


[Repeat Chorus]


One day you will
Oh one day you will


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=byegkp9RJME

This is my new theme song for now...

The smell of disappointment...

I reek of it. I am so disappointed in myself lately from my lack of motivation and general laziness...especially when it comes to my running. I had regsitered for the DRC Independence Day 10k and on race day downgraded to the 5k. I did the same thing yesterday at the Too Hot To Handle 15k...race day I downgraded to the 5k. Why? It was hot, yes. And I know I do not run well in the heat. I haven't ran much this summer at all due to said heat. But those are excuses. It is WAY too easy for me to talk myself out of running. How can I get in to a better mind set to do better about my running? All the weight I've lost over the last couple of years I've put back on. Great. I've completely given up on Weight Watchers. I do not have the best DNA handed down to me...I know this. I know I need to be healthy and take care of myself. Yet, I haven't been. And when I think about it I get disappointed in myself...I know I can & should do better. I've just been in a rut and can't seem to get out. I want to...I just don't. How do I fix this???